In Defense of Country Music: Intro to Country


Stereotypes

Two years ago, I wrote an essay for my nonfiction class that looked at the stereotypes that surrounds some of the music I listen to including country music. I started off each section with popular definitions of the music from urban dictionary. The one I used for the paper defined country music as, “an unbearably irritating form of music that uses the same twangy gee-tar and awful wavering voice to sing about a very short list of topics such as: cheating spouse, alcoholics drinking to excess, pickup trucks, bein' a good-ol-boy, not havin' any a them-thar teeth and screwin' horses.”(1)

I’m going to be honest; I like country music. “But what do I mean by country music?” you ask.

My Dad’s Country


My first introduction to country music was the stuff my dad listened to when I was growing up. While I’ve never fallen in love with the radio station that played the music he grew up with, the tagline of which was, “all the hits from the 60s, 70s, 80s” in an echoey announcer voice, I loved the country music. Alan Jackson, Toby Keith, Rascal Flatts, and Josh Turner were what my family jammed out to in the green jeep.

Vacation Time-Machine


Although we couldn’t afford to leave the country on vacations, my parents managed to make fun family vacations out of the places within driving distance. But that meant really long car rides with my two siblings and me crammed into the back row of the green jeep Cherokee trying to lean over kicking feat, sneakers long since slipped off still tied, across pilled up pillows, and pushing aside snacks just to reach the crank to roll down the windows. My parents about at their wits end would ask us what we wanted to listen to. “The chicken song!” The chicken song was Alan Jackson’s “Where I come from” which goes like this: “Where I come from/ it’s corn bread and chicken/ Where I come from/ A lot of front porch sittin’” I forgot that my back hurt, my sister had kicked me, and Josh finally stopped fussing, as my dad added in twenty more “Yee haw!”s than Alan Jackson originally put in. Sooner or later we ended up in Williamsburg, Virginia and could run around the campground, while my parents set up the pop-up.

Terrible Timing

My family has never had the best timing. No matter how many episodes we watched that was as benign and age-appropriate the moment my mom walked in it became the most violent, inappropriate show on television. Every. Single. Time. My mom, siblings and I could have spent all day keeping the house perfectly spick-n-span and 100% tidy, but as my dad unlocked the door blocks would jump from their bins, dishes would become dirty and strewn about the kitchen, and school books would suddenly appear all over the tables and chairs. If it weren’t so frustrating and disruptive to the household harmony, it would have been a miracle.

Therefore, it really shouldn’t have surprised anyone that almost immediately after we moved to a new house, my brother was born (making us a family of 5), the company my dad worked at was bought. His job moved to Milwaukee, but we didn’t. Luckily, he hadn’t believed the promises of “Oh you’ll keep your job” and had been looking. It was a pay cut, but it didn’t sink us. Oh this was also during the housing crash of ’08.
That new house, thankfully, wasn’t too overpriced, but the market crashing and burning around us, with the fussing of a newborn baby, didn’t help the sting of the pay cut at all.

“I can feel a chill of a cold November wind
Here in Oklahoma that means it is wintertime again
Every time I think about the rain and sleet and snow”

We didn’t eat out much less than once per season, we stopped going to a lot of extra-curricular activities, and in the evenings the house itself seemed to strain under the weight my parents had to carry.

“I start dreamin' about siestas underneath this sombrero
Baby if you're good to go we'll go down to Mexico
Get a place in Cabo, kick back in the sand
It'll be just you and me and moonlight dancing on the sea
To Spanish guitar melody of a mariachi band”



Golden Sand Lining

As the stock market plummeted and wallowed, my family was soaring listening to Toby Keith’s “Good to Go to Mexico”. After dinner, as I cleared off the table and my siblings stared at the pile of peas attempting to will them out of existence, and my mom put condiments back in the fridge, my dad would put on Toby Keith.

“I got two tickets bought
There won't be no second thought
Weather's always nice down there in paradise
We'll find that little man who owns that taco stand
We'll be drinkin' margaritas while we're workin' on our tan”

My dad would start dancing as he rinsed off the dishes and put them in the dishwasher rocking side to side. It’s difficult to put into words how my dad sings along to songs. While he isn’t a terrible singer, he doesn’t really try that hard to get the words right. He mumble-sings those he doesn’t know, and sometimes doesn’t even do that and throws all care to the wind blatantly singing the wrong words over top of the singer, as though the CD is obviously blatantly wrong. Before we knew it dinner was cleaned up and he’d put it on again.

“Cancun don't get me high
That's where the snow birds fly
They like to winter there
Then they come from everywhere
I'll take the Baja sun
It ain't overrun
With the gringos and the touristas
We might be the only ones”

A Dance Floor

In the yellow glow of the floor lamps, the dark, cold and cloudy November family room echoing with the song was transported to warm Mexico or (meh-hii-coh as my dad would pronounce it in his terrible fake Spanish accent). He’d also trill his tongue and yell “Yi Ha!” as he grabbed my mom’s hand and twirled her around. She’d start laughing, our dog Casey would start barking, and I would do bad handstands as if they were dance move.

“Baby if you're good to go we'll go down to Mexico
Get a place in Cabo, kick back in the sand
It'll be just you and me and moonlight dancing on the sea
To Spanish guitar melody of a mariachi band”

That's part of what country music is to me. Next week I'll explain why I can like both Johnny Cash and Roger Miller, but not want to vomit  when I'm listening to (and actually enjoy (Gasp!)) Kane Brown, Clare Dunn, and the rest of the newest country. 

Notes:
Sources:

(1) kc512, UrbanDictionary.com user. February 20, 2010.


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